The most traumatic, stressful and worrying memory for anyone could be something which is very disturbing for their soul and rape is one of the traumatic situations. Its not easy to discuss this issue but you have to keep believing that no matter what happened or how bad it was, but still rape doesnt define me otherwise the whole perspective will change.
It could be that he took you out for a date and that night ended up with taking away the most precious thing from you. It could be that even after the incident you would have to come face to face with the same person again especially if he was your friend or colleague.
In order to feel the true sadness of such thing, consider this particular story where a girl got raped by her dear friend and he planned a date with her and they went on a beautiful date and that night it ended up with her loud screams. Now, its hard for her to forget that night ever and the days after that incident were even more worse as her friend who raped her was actually her university fellow as well.
The girl started to avoid getting closer to men because it felt like they can hurt and she used to feel very dirty and tainted. Then a time came when she started questioning herself that how did she even allowed something like this to happen and why it happened.
There was a time when she cut off from the outer world and it was that time when she realized she has to get back to normal life and all of this should get ended now. Because you cannot give anyone permission to take control over you life and make it worse for you.
That young lady started setting off to the spots she was maintaining a strategic distance from previously and chose to go to exercise center where he used to come and after that began confronting that individual instead of fleeing from that place since she needed to demonstrate to him that she's sufficiently solid and can manage this circumstance. All these little advances were extremely useful for her to recover her life on track.
That was the time when she finally decided to help other victims who were going through this situation because it gave her feeling that by helping others she can actually take revenge from her assaulter and showing him that her life has not stopped because of this incident and she isn't a weak person.
One you get that realization, there re lots of thing that you can do and one of them is to start helping as many people as possible who have gone through the same tragedy. It is a traumatic situation but you have to keep yourself together and get over it as soon as your can. All you need is to build trust within yourself and you should take a stand for yourself and things will get better with time rape and i can say that my rape doesn't define me.
It could be that he took you out for a date and that night ended up with taking away the most precious thing from you. It could be that even after the incident you would have to come face to face with the same person again especially if he was your friend or colleague.
In order to feel the true sadness of such thing, consider this particular story where a girl got raped by her dear friend and he planned a date with her and they went on a beautiful date and that night it ended up with her loud screams. Now, its hard for her to forget that night ever and the days after that incident were even more worse as her friend who raped her was actually her university fellow as well.
The girl started to avoid getting closer to men because it felt like they can hurt and she used to feel very dirty and tainted. Then a time came when she started questioning herself that how did she even allowed something like this to happen and why it happened.
There was a time when she cut off from the outer world and it was that time when she realized she has to get back to normal life and all of this should get ended now. Because you cannot give anyone permission to take control over you life and make it worse for you.
That young lady started setting off to the spots she was maintaining a strategic distance from previously and chose to go to exercise center where he used to come and after that began confronting that individual instead of fleeing from that place since she needed to demonstrate to him that she's sufficiently solid and can manage this circumstance. All these little advances were extremely useful for her to recover her life on track.
That was the time when she finally decided to help other victims who were going through this situation because it gave her feeling that by helping others she can actually take revenge from her assaulter and showing him that her life has not stopped because of this incident and she isn't a weak person.
One you get that realization, there re lots of thing that you can do and one of them is to start helping as many people as possible who have gone through the same tragedy. It is a traumatic situation but you have to keep yourself together and get over it as soon as your can. All you need is to build trust within yourself and you should take a stand for yourself and things will get better with time rape and i can say that my rape doesn't define me.
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