How To Fix Relationship Turmoil

By Roger Kelly


People spend half of their life trying to find the right person. Since the beginning of time the concept of love and relationship has already been around. However looking for the right person is not as easy as it sounds.

Along ones journey in life, you start to realize the importance of looking for that somebody to share your whole life with. Sometimes people do not need someone to complete them, just one person who can accept them completely. But there is no perfect relationship, there would be challenges along the way, and as it grows and keeps on, some happen to lose interest and starts struggling with intimacy.

It always all starts with courtship. There are a lot of situations to initially meet some that can catch your attention. There are times that you are the first one to feel the spark, sometimes it is the other person who needs to initiate it. Either way, one needs to make the move. More often than not, it is this stage where people comprehend how the power of stares and simple eye to eye contact can ignite and start it all.

In this modern generation, one will have the courage to ask for the other persons digits or contact information. They then exchange messages from normal conversations to admission of feeling. It is such a cliche but admit it, you would not normally respond and invest time if you are not interested with the person, in the first place. Then, they become official. They mark a label to their relationship.

Somewhere down the line there will be disagreements between the couple. The couple might not notice it but slowly they are drifting away from each other until such time they realize it is already too late. Constant fights and arguments often lead to loss of interest for each other.

As time passes by, individual differences start to flicker. Arguments lead to arise. Misunderstandings become normal and sometimes could go to extremes. A person would then start feeling the loss of spark. The intimacy in the way you used to look at each other is now gone. The tingling feeling with their mere presence most especially when they are near is now lost.

Reviving a relationship takes a lot of patience and courage for both sides. In order to fix the problem, each party must be able to recognize and accept their faults in order to forgive each other and give themselves a second chance at their relationship. Both parties need to realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but the key to having a great relationship is to just treat each other like it they are still in the early stage of their relationship, back when patience and love rules above all negative feelings.

The moment one becomes fully aware that its existing relationship is now shaky and on the rocks, they try educate their selves and incorporate in their minds that what they are feeling is already wrong. They start to slap their own selves with the idea of loyalty. Feeling sympathy towards their partner is normal, they sure become guilty as if falling out of love is a crime. Yes it is unfair, but questions like, how can it be wrong when it feels so right stands on the side.

But to heal a wound, one needs to simply stop touching it. Sometimes, people come to your life just to teach you some lessons and mold you to be a better version of yourself. The technique is simple, accept of what is, forget of what was and brighten your thoughts of what will be. Always remember, you do not drown by falling but by staying there.




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