Healthy Environment In A Union Of Marriage

By Jeffrey Jones


Departing after wedding being in relationship for several years is the most unpleasant thing in existence. There are many reasons behind this. When marriages are arranged by parents we tend to choose a life partner who we do not love. This results in quarrel and disagreement at later stage. Marriage therapist has conducted extensive research to predict divorce warning signs.

The powerful emotion humans can experience is love. Partners do not think deep about affection when there is a continuous giving and receiving from each another. Only when there is something lacking in relationships people ponder. But by the time they realize it becomes too late to save the relationship.

Countries which have arranged marriage in practice the divorce rate is low because the family and society come together to solve the problem. Modernization is one among many reasons for separation. Due to this more freedom and money is available with people to ignore others sentiments and values.

Violence is not a social behavior. This is a psychological problem. Showing aggression against our loved ones does not bring peace or try to solve the issue. This actually makes matter worst. A decision taken in anger is never appropriate. A couple should openly communicate to each other for any disagreement which will help in improving the relationship. Reasons are many, why couples choose to separate is the changes in life like redundancy, retirement, bereavement, abandoning of one partner, children leaving home, violence, sexual abuse etc.

Violence in families creates criminal tendencies in children, which can affect them in afterward. This also encourage anger, disobedience, fear, not studying, suicides, sexual abusing of friends, which later can take them to prison. Depression, anxiety and other mental stress or disorders are part and parcel of impact of violence and divorce in families.

Unemployment plays a big role in divorce. A huge challenge a relationship can face is one of the partners losing their job. This creates humiliation, frustration, fear, and despair among the couples. This can put marriages under tremendous strain. May be for the first three months things would go without any serious issues and after that if any one of them is not able to find a job things go wrong in the family.

Couples married at younger age can come in the prospective divorce list. People who have wedded early might think that exposure or experience received by them compared to others is less and want different things now. Even coping up with children at young age makes them irritable and tensed.

Counseling is usually done on behalf of court to make the couples aware of their acts and their after effects. The impact on their children and family, societal issues, adjusting with the feelings associated with divorce etc. The counseling also helps them to understand each others issues and gives an opportunity to fix problem leading to a good marital life.

Both parties should be willing to adjust for a compromise. Blaming does not give any benefit to any person. Forgiving is a good medicine to help a relationship. Both people need to pardon and let go off the complexes. When all these things are done a relationship can be saved from a divorce.




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